Why Your Anxiety Strategies Might Not Be Working


Hey beautiful soul,

Have you ever wondered why that breathing technique your friend swears by makes you feel more anxious? Or why everyone tells you to "just relax" when your mind is spinning?

Here's what I've discovered: We've been treating anxiety like it's one-size-fits-all, when it's actually as unique as your fingerprint.

Your Personal Navigation Style

Picture four people crossing a stormy ocean. One maps the currents, another jumps in swimming, the third feels the waves' rhythm, while the fourth imagines themselves already safe on shore.

Same destination. Completely different journeys.

In my latest podcast episode, I explore four distinct ways we navigate anxiety:

The Thinker - You analyze and search for the "why." Your superpower: incredible insights. Your challenge: analysis paralysis with those 60,000 daily thoughts.

The Doer - You channel anxiety into action - cleaning, exercising, organizing. Your superpower: productive momentum. Your challenge: never pausing to process feelings.

The Feeler - You dive deep emotionally, absorbing others' energy around you. Your superpower: profound emotional processing. Your challenge: getting lost in the emotional storm.

The Dreamer - You escape through imagination, creativity, and inner worlds. Your superpower: incredible mental refuge. Your challenge: avoiding real-world issues.

The Truth That Changes Everything

There is nothing wrong with your natural way of handling anxiety.

You're not broken because meditation doesn't work. You're not weak because you need movement. You're not "too sensitive" or "escapist."

You're working with a different operating system, and once you understand yours, everything shifts.

What's Waiting for You

In this episode, I share research-backed strategies tailored to each style - from "worry time" for Thinkers to purposeful pauses for Doers, from expressive journaling for Feelers to reality check-ins for Dreamers.

Your anxiety isn't your enemy. It's your mind working overtime to keep you safe. When you understand your navigation style, you become the captain steering purposefully toward calm.

Ready to discover your style? Listen to the full episode and take my free 3-minute quiz for your personalized toolkit. You will get a personalized Spotify playlist with music and podcast episodes tailored to your specific management type. If you would like to get all 4 playlists because you have FOMO, reply to this email and I will send you all 4 playlists!

You're not alone in this journey, and you're more equipped than you know.

With deep belief in your resilience,

Cynthia

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My Workshop is at NOON CST today!

Your teen might not say, “I’m anxious.” Instead, you might see:

  • Irritability over small things
  • Perfectionism or procrastination
  • Emotional outbursts that seem “out of nowhere”

These aren’t character flaws. They’re clues. 🧩

Join me on September 15 at 12 PM CST for a free workshop:


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You’ll walk away with simple tools that help you respond in ways that calm—not fuel—the struggle.

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You will have time to tell me what's happening in your family and I can show you resources that I have available to you or even introduce you to one of the many guests I have had that can help you. You will leave the call with your Next Step!

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I am a life coach for parents and their teens. I help parents create a rock solid relationship with their teens by being the parent of their dreams, and I help teens ditch anxiety and overwhelm so they can be confident and happy. The #1 way for parents to help their teens be happy, healthy, and successful is to build an impactful relationship with their teen.

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Hi! I am a teen anxiety coach!

I empower teenagers to uncover the root causes of their anxiety, guiding them towards cultivating a more peaceful mindset. Through my content, I provide valuable tools and techniques to help silence the inner alarms that go off in their minds and bodies. Be sure to check out "The Teen Anxiety Maze," my podcast designed not only for teens seeking anxiety relief but also for parents looking to understand how to engage in meaningful conversations about anxiety with their children. My Podcast is also in video format on YouTube. I have 33 years of experience working with young people. First as a teacher, then 25 years as a school counselor and 2 years as a 1:1 anxiety coach. Let me help your teen feel better now!

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